As we enter into another new year, we’re sure you are also aware of seeing the deluge of posts convincing us all it’s time for personal reinvention.
Whilst we actively champion the principle of continuous development, there is a flaw with the concept of reinvention, stemming from the route of resolutions that we don’t discuss; not celebrating who and where you are currently and using that as a starting point for growth.
“I’m going to be a totally different person this year.” “I’m going to be healthier, and leaner. In fact, not only am I going to be healthier and leaner, I’m going to meditate every day, eat my vegetables, fix all my bad habits, like Netflix, and forgo wine for the next 6 months – at least.” “I’m going to save all my money, pay off my uni debt, get a kick-ass job and take one step closer to having it all.”
Any of these sound familiar?
As the new year rolls in, that’s exactly what we do. We start off making grand gestures at fixing everything that we see as “wrong” with us. Things we haven’t achieved in the past that we’re gearing up for once the calendar hits the 1st of January….. or the 2nd….. or the 6th.
When only 19% of people are averagely completing their New Year’s goals and resolutions, it would seem sensible to assume that we are approaching this annual phase of self-reflection from the wrong angle.
As the clocks strike midnight on 31st of December each year, and the new year rolls in, unsurprisingly, you are the same person you were 24hours ago, the same person you were last week and the same person you were last year. The only thing that changes when we create resolutions is the way we intend to execute our actions. We are not changing who we are.
We are all shaped by those around us, where we live and the way we were brought up, along with a myriad of external factors; this is our diversity and we should be encouraging ourselves to live in it authentically, every day, at home and at work.
Living an authentic life’s been linked to higher levels of positive affect, life satisfaction, autonomy, environmental mastery, better relationships with people, personal growth, self-acceptance, and a reduction in stress and anxiety.
Being authentic is one of the only ways to be seen and accepted for our genuine self, and authentically accept new and existing challenges. Every day’s another opportunity to show up with who we truly are, and present ourselves reliably. We can either choose to use authenticity as a tool for growth or use it as an excuse to remain in our comfort zone.
So instead of walking into the different rooms of your life and trying to figure out what needs improvement, inspecting what needs renovations, judging the cracks and the faults… look at the possibilities of the structure as a whole, and take it from there.
It’s empowering to know you have this capacity to change, internally. To keep on growing, acquiring, evolving on this exponential learning curve. You just have to make space for it and stop telling yourself that the only way you’ll get there is by being a better version of you; your authentic self is more than capable of getting you there. And it already yields you all the tools you need to get there.
So Happy New Year and Decade from all of us at Ruebik. We hope you have an incredible one, in the immortal words of Hugh Grant, “just as you are”.